P.B. Fitzwater once wrote; “Character is the sum and total of a person's choices.”

In today's world, we LOVE our choices because basically choices come along with freedom and democracy and should they be violated; Actions will be taken!

We love to have the opportunity to choose and any company that makes money worth counting has taken advantage of this at some point.

I'm not saying that choices are bad, I mean, if I were, Xanga would absolutely be the wrong place to promote such a statement because here at Xanga, we have blogs for every type of crazy out there and that's why so many people stay forever. You can cheat on Xanga with other blog sites but you NEVER leave Xanga! Off topic much?!.

The thing is, I’ve been thinking about all these choices and couldn't help but wonder if they sometimes cause us more damage than good. We are always so obsessed with keeping our options or 'doors' open that we are constantly looking for something better and never really able to enjoy what we have. This can often be seen in relationships. How someone will be dating more than one person at a time just so the person is sure they’ve made the right decision. Nothing wrong with wanting to be sure, the problem though is that the right choice never feels like the right choice if you keep obsessing about whether or not you could have made a better decision. So you date this person and then that person and then a hundred more and then suddenly you've dated too many to remember what you were looking for in the first place. Suddenly you're left with this illusion of what you want; "John had perfect teeth, Steve was just the right height and Tony was such a gentleman but James was so daring and exciting,.. mmm now all I have to do is find someone that embodies all these qualities and more, then I’m set to go!" and on her grave they wrote 'Jane, beloved daughter, sister and wonderful cat owner’ Depressing, I know.

Okay. So 50 years ago, a school in a little town in England had only one thing on their launch menu, soup and bread with butter, 50 years later, trying to keep up with other schools the menu flourished with options. There were salads, drinks and each meal wasn’t allowed to be repeated more than once a week. Odd enough, the students had more to complain about and were less content with the option of food then they had been 50 years ago. Strange, don’t you think?

In one of Friends most awesome episodes, Ross had just been dumped by his lesbian wife when in an effort to comfort him, Joey tells him to grab a spoon and start tasting all the flavors the world has to offer.

The annoying part though is, with all the flavors in this world and millions more mixed every day, will someone ever be able to stay faithful and content with one flavor? And does the more you taste lessen your chances of ever being content with one? If so, could having sex or too many sexual experiences in general forever endanger your chances of ever being happy and satisfied once married?

Wow, so many things to consider. How would you answer these questions though? What do you think about these open doors and choices we make day in and out?... I guess the question is; to choose or not to choose?

So many times i've heard fellow girlfriends saying they want a 'real man'  the kind that will fix things around the house that he himself had built of course. The kind that would hold you tight while you were having a fit and the kind of guy that will treat you like a lady. 

Weird enough, these girls also want a man who basically could be apart of the Queer Eye while all the same time being  oh so very straight and manly! In other words, what they want is the best of both worlds, which is realisticly impossible. Honestly, i'm all for equality and blah blah but seriously, come on girls. We have to stop asking Santa for a guy with healthy testicles between his legs and matching ovaries ! If you're lucky enough to get a man; one that loves all your dramatic outbursts, respects you, opens doors for you, fixes things around your apartment and comes home sweaty and dirty because he has a hard labor kind of job, which by the way doesn't pay well but just about enough,then  DON'T TRY TO CHANGE HIM!

A lot of women  have already heard that five word sentence but few really listen to it. First they are happy that they have a manly man but soon, they start telling him he needs to take better care of his split ends, maybe handing in his worn out jeans for some Levi's would look better and oh, he is still young so maybe he could try getting a job that pays better and doesn't make him as filthy as working in a garage.. But before you know it, you are sitting with your girls, surrounded with wet tissues repeating, "I really didn't see this coming,..i i i thought he loooved mee" And you know what? He loved you, back when you loved him for him.

As girls we  have to understand that guys aren't like Christmas trees, that you buy because of the potential they have to become perfect when you finish decorating them.We have to stop forcing our men to watch Dr.Phil with us yet calling him a sissy when he starts expressing too many feelings. I'm afraid that all this forcus on sex equality and so on ends up leaving us with cats that bark and hump legs and dogs tip toeing up trees and roofs and i know it's a dramatic comparison but the point is, it's just plain scary and confusing.Frankly, i blame much of it on this huge Make-Over industry with such motto's as "There is always room for improvement!" But listen, the motto you should be following is "If it isn't broken, then pleeeaasee don't try to fix it!"

But what do you guys think, both girls and boys, what do you think about the roles we play as man and woman when in a relationship and in general?